Online Dating For The Geek In You
Where do you go when you are looking for love?
If you are second guessing the idea of joining an online dating site?
Let me tell you how I first discovered online dating and why I firmly believe it fits in with our modern day lifestyles.
Online dating used to have a stigma of desperation attached to it. Although people were using the internet as a method of dating, they did not discuss it with friends or colleagues for fear of coming across desperate.
I recall a friend of mine who was initially embarrassed to tell me she had joined an online dating site. Idea of the surprise catch is what fascinates me about online dating, especially for the first meet. However, after chatting to her I completely understood why she had resorted to this method of dating; she was simply tired of meeting timewasters who were not interested in committing to a relationship.
Whilst she had no desire to date some of the men who contacted her, there were quite a few she was interested in and she began a dating spell to make any “singleton” jealous. She started a online relationship with a man who lived 100 miles from her. After exchanging many emails and chatting on the telephone, she decided to meet him. Obviously, the distance didn’t make the relationship ideal but the spark was there and she enjoyed 6 months dating someone with similar interests, shared romantic weekends together and had a fantastic holiday. Although he didn’t turn out to be “the one”, when I asked if she regretted joining an online dating site her answer was “Definitely not!” Her view was that if she hadn’t joined an online dating site, those 6 months would have been spent moaning about meeting the same timewasters in the same old haunts and wondering “what if”. She was simply being proactive in her search for love; after all life is far too short!
If you’re not convinced online dating is for you, here are 11 reasons why I think online dating has its advantages:-
1. You don’t have to wait until the weekend to meet someone.
2. You don’t have to get dressed up for a night “online”. When going on the first meet, wear whatever you want to wear as long as it makes you feel sexy.
3. If your schedule does not allow you to go and visit places of meeting people, then online dating will fit the bill. Does not matter about time, you can log on and there will always be someone waiting to chat.
4. When surfing for that date, if you find that the person you are talking to is not the one then put her or him back in the pool and move on. As said by the website “Plenty of Fish” in the sea!
5. If you are tired of seeing the same old faces when you go out, there are people of all age groups all across the country waiting online to meet someone.
6. Whether it is for friendship or dating or marriage, online dating is a great way to meet someone. By chatting with people in your area, you can set up arrangement to meet and just have fun.
7. If all of your friends have settled down or you have recently become single what better way to meet new someone quickly than to go online and meet more singles!
8. Being in front of the computer will lead to flirting in the chat rooms or instant messaging, since one will not feel embarrassed for his or her actions.
9. By chatting and text messaging to someone for awhile will help with your decision to meet or not. Online dating usually makes people more cautious about who they choose to date and in this day and age that can’t be a bad thing!
10. We now live and date very differently to previous generations where the traditional place to meet people was in nightclubs, parties, at work or through friends. By joining an online dating site you are not excluding these avenues but simply extending your opportunities of meeting someone.
11. Usually one month memberships cost less than a night out on the town and there are websites that are free to join